It’s Not Your Time Right Now


Dear Sis,

It’s not your time right now and that’s okay!

The months of May and June have always been busy for me. May was filled with graduations, engagements, bachelorette parties, promotions, housewarmings, and gender reveals. I didn’t have anything exciting going on in my life, so naturally I felt like I was being left behind and everyone was being promoted except me! After much reflection, I realized two things: 1. The people I surround myself with are LIT! 2. I need to trust in God’s perfect timing.

I pride myself in the success of my friends, and it makes me SO happy to see them living their dreams! I truly believe, you are the company you keep. I much rather be surrounded by beautiful women who are living large and inspiring me, rather than women who are…not. I am constantly reminded of God’s word in Ecclesiastes 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. In Tanisha translation it goes on to say: there is a time to work hard, and a time to relax; a time to stay down, and a time to come up; a time to celebrate your friends, and a time to be celebrated; a time to be young and single, and a time to be happily married; a time to be selfish, and a time to be selfless; a time to be the student nurse, and a time to be the HNIC (Google it).

Ultimately, I am so grateful that through my season of uncertainty I am able to celebrate other’s success. As women, we get so caught up on numbers thinking, “Wow, I’m 25-years-old, I still live in my parents house, I’m not working my dream job, and I’ve been single for X amount of years.” I encourage you to stop listening to those voices from satan and start trusting in the promises of the Lord. Grow where you are planted and allow God to use you in your current season! Maybe the Lord still has you in your parents house at 25 because He wants you to save for your mansion that is to come. Maybe you’re not working your dream job right now, making all that money you want because you’re not being a good steward of what He has blessed you with #ouch. Maybe you’re single because God is protecting your heart from a man that would emotionally drain you, cheat on you, and take away the time He needs from you to achieve your purpose (*cough cough* Tanisha Terry).

When people compliment me, label me as #goals or whatever else, I smile on the outside but cringe on the inside. Because truth is, YOU DON’T KNOW MY LIFE! You are only envious of this young and successful black girl that I portray myself to be; you don’t know what I had to do to get here, the things that keep me up at night, or the skeletons in my closet. We all have a chapter of our lives that we don’t read out loud. So just enjoy where you are NOW and stop focusing on where you aren’t. Whatever season you find yourself in, learn to seek for what God is trying to reveal to you. Often times, we can only gain clarity of God’s will by being still and quiet before Him. So, if you are in a “stagnant” season of your life, be grateful; it’s easier to hear from Him. Learn to prosper in whatever season life has you in. Remember that seasons change, it’s not your time right now… AND THAT’S OKAY!

Special thanks to the beautiful brides for sharing their photos featured above: Mrs. Virginia Steward, Ms. Tamika Terry and Mrs. Brittany Hayes

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