The Resilience of Black Girls

I pay tribute to my grandmother, my mom, my sisters, and other influential women in my life who have taught me the importance of resilience and the beauty in bouncing back from every situation! I have friends who have shared stories of losing family members in the worst of times, dealing with abusive relationships, and seasons of depression. While I am completely inspired by their triumph; I am not surprised!

We were birthed from adversity, our ancestors were slaves, and we were made to be resilient! I repeat: OUR ANCESTORS WERE SLAVES! We overcame slavery, segregation, and oppression! Who does that?! I’m not saying that other races aren’t capable of being great. I’m just saying, there’s something extra special about black girls and I’m happy the world is finally starting to realize it! Black girls have been lit before being lit was a thing. The world did itself a huge disservice by telling us what we couldn’t do; because that’s exactly what we’re doing! We are breaking through glass ceilings and destroying every limitation that was ever placed on us.

It’s a beautiful thing to overcome every obstacle that was meant to destroy you. People who wanted to see me fail have been given front row tickets to watch me succeed. I have faced adversity, I have been pushed to my limits, but I never quit! I am so grateful to be at a point in my life where are all my setbacks are adding up. Every time I receive new blessings, I gain an understanding of past mistakes.

This blog allows me to admit, “I’VE MADE MISTAKES AND MY LIFE ISN’T PERFECT,” but I’m making the most of it because the world wants me to stay down; but I refuse! Once you become a diamond, you’ll see why life had to pressure you. So I encourage you to keep fighting through whatever you’re going through. Keep grinding, keep shining, because we’re resilient black girls and…

“We may bend but we never fold.”

 

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Life Update

So I originally wanted to sit down and write about my trip to Denver (pictured above), but after further review, it turns out a life update is more appropriate!

1. Work Life

In short, work has been fun! It has challenged me in ways I never imagined so soon but I am loving every second of it! The other week, I attended a delivery and it was so crazy I literally got one of my braids pulled out my head. So, there’s that! This week, I’m meeting with my manager to discuss my upcoming promotion and my plans to sit for my RNC this summer! Ahhh! So exciting!

2. Blog Life

The blog has been keeping me busy but I’m enjoying it! Last week I had an event, a photo shoot, and was featured on two different nursing websites! Who am I?! I’m starting to grow a little community within the blog and y’all have made it so fun! Sitting at home responding to all your emails and DMs has been very rewarding. I’m learning that I need to start posting more content about my nursing school journey because y’all have A LOT of questions about it!

3. Home Life

As crazy as it seems, I’m approaching two years in my little high-rise and I’m ready for a new adventure! I have about a month to figure out what the heck I’m gonna do next! Should I move home and travel the world? Buy a house? Get a townhouse with my girlfriends? Do I wanna live close to work and be suburban? Or stay in the city like a normal 24-year-old? The possibilities are endless!

4. Love Life

Lol life is just crazy ya know!? One day I’m in love, the next day I get nauseated at the thought of being tied down. Just be in prayer I find balance, thanks!

5. Travel Life

Denver was a blast! I suggest anyone who appreciates the outdoors and loves adventure to add it to your bucket list! As our uber driver stated, “There’s no sense of urgency” in Denver. He was so right! People just aren’t in a rush to do anything, I couldn’t live in a place like that but I really enjoyed my visit! We woke up late everyday, lost track of time, and just went with the flow. It makes sense that such a beautiful place like Denver has that vibe; there’s so much to see, you have to slow down a bit to take it all in.

P.S. Y’all know I live for little life lessons. So the other day I walked in the nail salon, and my regular technician wasn’t available. Tragic. The owner proceeds to sit me down while I picked my color. I look up, and this tall, extremely masculine man sits in front of me and starts doing my nails. I want to leave at this point because I had such an eventful weekend coming up. How dare they let this new man do my nails?! Welp, just as fate would have it, I let him do my nails, and it was the most perfect shellac manicure I have ever received! So, learn from me and my lessons from the nail salon. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Let the linebacker do your nails and thank me later!

 

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Coffee and Conversations

   Last weekend I had the opportunity to sit on the panel at Charlie Marcol’s Coffee and Conversations! The day was filled with powerful women, stimulating dialogue and coffee with friends. Three key points that we shared were #1. Love yourself before committing to loving anyone else, think before you leap. #2. Marriage is ministry, treat it as such. #3. In your season of waiting, make sure you are preparing yourself for all the blessings that are to come! For those that missed Coffee and Conversations Part 1, I can’t wait to see you at the next! Follow the host: Charlie Marcol via Facebook and Instagram @charliemarcol to stay in the know!

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Will Work For Louboutins

3b481816857c7c8b97e7d1719a310e76Since I was 17 years old, I have always wanted a pair of the most coveted Christian Louboutins. After landing my first big girl job, reality set in that I was no longer a poor college student and that I could actually afford them. One Friday evening, I walked into Neiman Marcus looking like I belonged at A’gaci and picked out the all black, patent leather, “So Kates.” The salesman came over to me as said, “One can only dream of owning those shoes.” I smiled and asked, “Do y’all have them in a size 38?”

Some would consider it overly dramatic that I tried on the shoes and literally felt like Brandy from Cinderella. The shoes fit perfectly and I knew I had to get them. Buying my first pair of Louboutins was monumental!  It was my unsaid way of telling everyone “I WILL WORK FOR WHATEVER I WANT…AND SO CAN YOU!”

I’ve never been afraid of a little hard work because I’ve always reaped the benefits. Being a #girlboss means you are in charge of making YOU happy! I’m a firm believer in making myself happy….unapologetically! As long as you are living within your means, you are entitled to spend your money however you choose. So ask yourself, what makes you happy, $700 Louboutins, a $2,000 Gucci bag, a lavish vacation? Whatever it is, “Beat the odds, do numbers and remain humble!” Cheers to all my fellow hard-working ladies with no sugar daddy financing your lifestyle, you rock. Don’t ever change!

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21 Times Black Girls Slayed

1. TGFLOTUSTEDO (The greatest FLOTUS to ever do it, duh) Mrs. Michelle Obama!

2. Remember when Simone Biles completely slayed the entire Summer ’16 Olympics? Baby girl is MAGIC!

3. If you’ve never seen this picture, these are TWO DAUGHTERS AND ONE MOM! They broke the internet with this picture that had people all over the world debating which one is the mom, and I STILL don’t know!

4. Mae Carol Jemison is an American engineer, physician and NASA astronaut. She became the first African-American woman to travel in space when she went into orbit aboard the Space Shuttle Endeavour on September 12, 1992.

5. Iyore Olaye graduated as the only black woman Chemical Engineer In Cornell University’s 2016 Class and I cried real tears reading her Facebook post.

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6. Hazel Winifred Johnson-Brown was a nurse and educator who served with the U.S. Army. In 1979 she became the first black chief of the United States Army Nurse Corps.

7. Zim Ugochukwu is the beauty behind Travel Noire; her pictures are breathtaking and always give me extreme wanderlust vibes.

8. Gabby is my spirit animal and living proof that “Black Don’t Crack”. Homegirl is 44 y’all! NBD

9. One of my favorite bloggers, Courtney Brand posing for “Fashion Weak”. She is beauty, brains, and boss all wrapped into one on Thebwerd.com.

10. Rosa Parks was an American civil rights activist, whom the United States Congress called “the first lady of civil rights” and “the mother of the freedom movement”. #RedLipRosa

11. Remember when Kerry Washington wore this white cape on Scandal?  Yes Oliva, handle it!

12. Angel Rice is a two-time World Cheerleading Champion and a USA Gymnastics National Power Tumbling Team Member. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve never seen this beauty, so I introduce to you: Angel Rice…  

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13. Taraji P Henson at the SAG awards, I die.

14. Remember Ms. Racia Poston broke the internet with her graduation photo shoot? Baby girl is a Tennessee State University Alumnus and is also: in the U.S. Army, a member of Delta Sigma Thea Inc., Student Government Association President, a former Miss Collegiate 100, and a first generation college graduate!

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15. Ruby Nell Bridges Hall is an American activist known for being the first black child to desegregate the all-white William Frantz Elementary School in Louisiana.

16. My fellow Black Girl White Coat Lauren Lacquer is a Harvard grad, wife, MD, mother of three, and blogger so lets all just take a second to appreciate her greatness.

17. Meet Mikaila Ulmer, the 11-year-old girl who scored an $11million deal with Whole Foods to
sale her Lemonade.

18. It should be no surprise that my sweet Sister-In-Law, Craneshia made the cut. She is beautiful inside and out and was flawless on her big day!

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19.  Marjorie Harvey is the epitome of style and grace! “C’mon on Marjorie, give ’em legs, shine on!”

Beautiful cream and red plus size prom dress:

20. I included this beauty on her prom night because 1. She’s gorgeous and 2. She’s flaunting her curves and using them to her advantage!

21. Misty  Copeland is an American ballet dancer. In 2015 she was promoted principal dancer, thereby becoming the first black female principal in the 75-year history of the American Ballet Theatre. *cough cough* #blackgirlmagic

We are a dominate race; and when you come from dominate genes… you tend to dominate things!

 

 

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Lessons From The Big Apple

This past week, I was in New York visiting my forever friends Hannah and Elizabeth.  After 10 years of friendship, we have learned one valuable lesson from each other: friends don’t have to see each other everyday to remain best friends. In high school, these girls and I were ATTACHED AT THE HIP! I thought I would die when I moved away to college without them. We lived in separate cities, with different majors, new friends, new hobbies, and new lifestyles, but we always knew we’d have each other. We are the friends that go months without speaking to each other, but will drop anything if either of us were ever in need; and there is much to be appreciated from friends like that. We met my freshman year of high school at cheerleading tryouts and have been best friends ever since. Elizabeth later went on to graduate from LSU and currently lives in Tuscaloosa, Alabama and Hannah graduated from Texas A&M and lives in Manhattan! When we were 16-year-old high school girls, Hannah always talked about living in NYC, and I am SO happy to see her dreams become reality!

Pictured above: Carrie Bradshaw aka my BFF, Hannah

Needless to say, Liz and I jumped at the opportunity to visit our girl in her new city! We arrived in New York and got straight to exploring! While Han was at work (big girl probs) we visited the 9/11 Memorial Museum and were blown away with how excellent of a job they did memorializing the events that took place. While walking though the museum, the emotions that the victims and their families experienced on September 11th, 2001 overcame us, and we left feeling extremely patriotic. We later met up with Han for dinner reservations and had a wonderful evening catching up on some long overdue girl talk. The following morning, we started our day with a class at SoulCycle! We had such a great time and I don’t think either of us have worked out that hard since our high school cheer days! After feeling rejuvenated and 13 lbs lighter we went to SoHo for some well deserved shopping! We got some cute items and I added another purse to my Louis Vuitton collection….unapologetically ( I blogged about that concept here).  My college roommate and other best friend, Tasia was in NYC for the weekend so we linked up with her for the night.

The remainder of our trip was filled with endless girl time and lots of eating…naturally. That Monday as I was flying back to Houston, I couldn’t help but be thankful for this life and the lessons I learned from “The Big Apple”. I was SO grateful to see my high school best friends doing great things with their lives. I learned the importance of “doing you”. Elizabeth, Hannah and I aren’t attached at the hip anymore, and that’s okay! We are each living completely different lives and doing exactly what we want to do. Nothing brings me more joy than watching my girls live the life they have always imagined. My dream for this community is that we grow as women who love the lives we live, and are able to stay connected to the people who have watched us grow from girls to women.

Major key alert: Eat with the people you starved with!

Liz, Tanish and Han Circa 2010

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You’ve Got to Jump

 

Since releasing the blog three weeks ago, my life has been CRAZY! I am overwhelmed with the amount of love and support I have received. I had my first live interview with The University of Connecticut, been invited to several speaking engagements, and I have partnered with nurses across the country that I considered role models just three short weeks ago. I am completely humbled by all the prosperity.

After taking a moment to reflect on where I expected Black Girls White Coats to be, I realized things could not have been orchestrated any better! God has been the ultimate plug and is writing my success story far better than I could have ever imagined! After reading Steve Harvey’s, “Jump”, I have been inspired to go after everything that I want out of life. I have adopted a lifestyle of “jumping” at everything that terrifies me. I am not scared anymore, for I know God is orchestrating my life just as He sees fit! This newfound courage led me to apply for an amazing job as a neonatal transport nurse at Houston Methodist Sugar Land (my hometown hospital) and much to my surprise, I actually got it!!!

I LOVED my previous job, I had amazing coworkers, a great boss, and a steady workflow. But deep down inside, I knew I needed more…so I jumped! With this move I am ready to live outside my comfort zone and face my fears of being the least experienced nurse on the unit. At Houston Methodist Sugar Land, I will be surround by other nurses who have specialized in neonatology longer than I have been alive, and that scares me just as much as it excites me! I’m going into this new opportunity with an open mind, ready to receive all that these seasoned nurses have to teach me!

My story is no fairytale. I am just a girl who decided to trust God and go for it! If you too are feeling content in your current job, situation, or relationship, I encourage you : JUST JUMP!

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Block His Number and Love Yourself

Sis,

Let me be real and raw with you, 2016 was a rough year for me! The heartaches, the aftermath of an ugly breakup, and all the “randoms” in-between left me drained. I was literally just proud of myself for going through it all and still remaining loyal and true to myself! At the end of 2016 I had zero people on my block list. After hours of reflecting and goal setting I realized that needed to change. I’ve always been a woman of second chances (and by second, I mean 27,501,948). But I finally decided enough was enough!!

One of my favorite bloggers, Heather Lindsey defines a “random” as a person you KNOW you’ll never marry but you date them to fill a void because you’re lonely or bored. A random is that ex boyfriend that is still trying to EMOTIONALLY connect with you. A random is an unhealthy relationship.

I had the realization that every relationship that I was not growing from was hurting me, whether it seemed like it or not. I realized that each time I dated a “random”, went out with someone for a free meal, or entertained a man I KNEW I had no future with was draining me. Each time I let a “random” in and out my life they left with pieces of me…and I was tired of it!! So one day I woke up, and I decided I was ready for a change. I made a vow to myself to block the “randoms”, STOP stalking my exes on social media, and love myself! After months of debating the situation and giving excuses as to why I should continue to entertain certain men, I just cut it, and it was really that simple!

Moving into the New Year, I am excited for what is to come from making these changes. I am excited to get back to doing the things I genuinely love, as well as focusing on myself and the woman I want to be for my future husband. I rest on God’s promise that “What God has for me is for ME, and there is nothing that anyone can say or do to change that.” Meaning, my fate has already been decided. So why should I waste my time jumping from random to random when there’s a whole world out there that needs to be conquered?  In short, I know that I BRING THE TABLE TO THE TABLE and I’m not afraid to eat alone!

 

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About Me: More Than Just a Pretty Face

I am so happy that you have taken the time to visit my blog!  My name is Tanisha Terry and I’m from Missouri City, Texas. I was raised in a double parent home by my two very best friends, my mom and dad (aka my M&D)! I am the baby of four siblings, and that plays a huge factor in me being the independent woman I am today. I come from a Christian home with strong values, morals, and all those other things the world lacks today.

The summer before my 8th grade year, I cared for my grandfather while my parents and siblings were away at work during the day. I vividly remember doing things for my paw paw and him saying “Thank you my little nurse” I’d smile and say, “You’re welcome paw paw but you know I’m gonna be a Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader/Dolphin Trainer” (laugh at my innocence). I was there for my grandfather in his last days, and as cliché  as it sounds, when we buried him, I could hear him saying, “Thank you my little nurse”…and the rest was history! I graduated from high school with my heart set on becoming that little nurse my paw paw always knew I would be. I attended Stephen F. Austin State University in little ol Nacogdoches, Texas. I wish I could write about how I was destined to be a nurse so nursing school was easy for me but that would be a lie. Nursing school was THE hardest thing I have ever done. I struggled my entire way through school, but glory be to God, I have the most wonderful career to show for it!

After graduating, I moved back home to Houston and accepted a position at the #1 Hospital in Texas: Houston Methodist. I spent a year working in gynecology and it was… an experience. My second year, I trained as a mother-baby nurse in L&D and I currently work as a neonatal travel nurse. I love being outdoors, reading and shopping. I’m a girly girl who loves spa dates, massages, mani/pedis and all those other things I could probably live without, but why should I try? I’m a travel enthusiast with dreams of seeing this entire world. I love this crazy life and I’m so excited to share the adventure with you all! Comment below to let me know you’re here; I can’t wait to hear from you!img_1435

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The Thank You Letter I Never Wrote

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Dear M&D,

Thank you for everything you’ve ever done for my siblings and I. Growing up, I had the best childhood I could have ever imagined and I didn’t even realize it until I was 23 years old. You two showed me the importance of loving God and loving others.

Mom, thanks for being my personal taxi to all my cheerleading practices, church events, oboe lessons, gymnastic competitions, and girl scout meetings. Seriously, how did you do it?!? #Blackmommagic? As much as I hate to say it, thanks for all those times you didn’t let me befriend certain girls because they didn’t come from “good people,” I get it now. Thanks for always teaching me to be a lady. I remember one night in high school, my then boyfriend was passing by the house and wanted me to come outside to talk while he was in his car, you flipped! You cursed me out, but I’m sure you conveniently don’t remember. It’s cool. I now receive respect from men without even asking for it because of you, thank you.

Dad, thanks for cooking breakfast for Tamika and I EVERY single morning while mom was away at work. Thank you for making me walk to school even though I would literally be in tears about walking three blocks. Thanks for seeing us to the door and making us say that chant every morning before school. “Hey! Be the best! Hey! Have a nice day! Hey! Daddy loves you!” I said that to myself countless times in nursing school. The chant was so special to me because the first verse taught me to always strive to be my very best. The second verse taught me that I could have a good day, or not, but the choice was mine. The last and sweetest verse taught me that no matter what I ever did, you would always love me!

My first semester of nursing school I was failing BADLY. I made a 64 on my first exam (the lowest score in the class). In order to pass that class I needed an 84 on the remaining 4 exams. I remember that semester and those numbers so vividly. I didn’t even come home until Thanksgiving break because 1. I was embarrassed and 2. I was studying relentlessly. When I finally came home we had the best time. We shared many laughs and I ate three servings of Tamika’s famous broccoli and cheese casserole. When it was time for me to return to school, I sat in my room with the weight of the world on my shoulders knowing I needed an 88 or above on my cumulative final to pass the class. I came down to the garage to tell y’all I wasn’t going back, I couldn’t do it. Then as usual, we stood in a circle and prayed. You two got behind me and pushed me into my car, I fought back, but y’all won. It was a cute little moment looking back on it, but at the time nothing about it was cute to me. Y’all slammed the door and waved as I drove off. I cried the entire way back to SFA. The next two weeks of studying for that final were exhausting but needless to say, I aced the test, passed the class, and later went on to graduate with honors! I know I couldn’t have done it without the extra push from you two, and for that I say….

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